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You failed to mention that women can be and are abusers too.
Date: Sunday, May 5, 2013 ID-1
Supporting all those who expose this massive problem of "Violence Bullying" in all our communities,from all your friends at http: www.tomthumb.info tt Thank you.
Date: Tuesday, March 26, 2013 ID-2
I am 1.5 years out of a 5 yearmostly emotionally abusive marrige. It was a hell I couldn't have imagined. I found this site via google when looking for something else, and decided to check it out.
I just wanted to say the the "In the Mind of an Abuser" section and the other descriptions are excellent. They are accurate and do a great job of boiling down complex behaviors to concise easy to understand sentences. And very very accurate.
Date: Monday, March 11, 2013 ID-3
I WAS ABUSED FOR 10 YEARS.I FINALLY GOT HELP AND GOT OUT OF THE MARRIGE ONE OF THE HAPPIEST DAYS OF MY LIFE. AS I WAS READING THE SIGNS OF AN ABUSER,I WOULD TELL PEOPLE HOW HE ABUSED ME,THEY WOULD SAY KNOW BECAUSE HE WAS SO NICE TO EVERYONE ELSE,VERY CHARMING,VERY MANIPUTIVE,HE WOULD TREAT ORTHER PEOPLE KIDS NICE BUT NOT HIS SON.I COULD NOT GO ANYWHERE UNLESS HE KNEW ALL OF MY WHERE ABOUTS,EVEN AT WORK HE CONTROLLED ME.HOW I GOT HELP I STARTED GETTING COUNSELING AND HOW TO LEAVE HIM WITHOUT GETTING HURT WITH THE HELP OF PROFESSIONAL PEOPLE. I THANK GOD I HAD THE COURAGE TO LEAVE.WE WERE IN THE COURTS FOR FOR 7 YEARS,BECAUSE OF HIM.FINALLY IT WAS OVER AND I GOT EVERYTHING HAD TO PAY HIM OFF DID THAT.BUT I THANK GOD IM NOT BEING ABUSED ANYMORE.
Date: Tuesday, January 29, 2013 ID-4
Cynthia - Certified Rape Crisis Counselor
Survivors, rape is about power, control and humiliation - someone taking power over you saying what you can and cannot do; control over you - forcing you to do what they want you to do against your will; humiliating you by degrading you in any way possible. TAKE YOU LIFE BACK! Get your counseling and complete it. After you have completed it, if you feel the need to get more counseling, go back whenever you feel the need to do so. Don't feel that you are being a burden - don't feel you are being silly. You are much better than what has happened to you. Donít allow the attacker to continue his her rampage of POWER, CONTROL and HUMILIATION over you. Itís YOUR life and you have the right to live it your way!
Date: Wednesday, December 26, 2012 ID-5
While surfing the intenet, I stumbled across, and was curious about, your website.
I am a certified Rape Crisis Counselor in Chicago. I believe that as a crisis counselor, I should be ever mindful of ways to make the survivor comfortable and unafraid and that I should frequently read related materials in order to stay abreast of what is going on in the field. I found your website interesting. Thank you for sharing with me.
By the way, my husband and I have been to Oregon. We LOVE youR state!
Date: Wednesday, December 26, 2012 ID-6
Thank you so much for your information on this website. As a licensed Marriage and Family Therapist I see a lot of physical and ****** abuse. Your topics are extremely well thought out and presented, especially the cycle of abuse and addressing the question, "Is he really going to change this time?" In fact, I'm including a short summary of your information in my book, with a link to your website because they are so well done - and unfortunately, so necessary. And because they are necessary, it's a tremendous blessing to have your resources available to share with others. With appreciation, Paul Coneff
Date: Thursday, December 13, 2012 ID-7
I am 65 years old & am a survivor of violence & ****** abuse as a child. My first partner was
also violent. It is so-o-o important to avoid jumping out of the frying pan & into the fire. I
took a couple of years to repair my soul, before again becoming involved in a serious
relationship. He was a very sweet man with a gentle soul. He restored my faith in humanity.
After 15 years of marriage, he died. I remarried several years later another really wonderful
guy. I'm widowed again, but I have many wonderful friends & I do not feel the need to have a
man in my life. I just want all victims of violence or ****** abuse or rape to know there is a
light at the end of the tunnel. Focus on healing before another relationship...LIFE IS GGOD!
Date: Sunday, November 18, 2012 ID-8
Thank you for this useful information. I shared it on Facebook for my friends. I am in several domestic violence, abuse, and rape groups on Facebook.
Date: Friday, October 26, 2012 ID-9